You want to develop a self care plan but it just ain’t working out.
Why? Because of several misconceptions, such as the need to have extra time and money before you can be able to do it. While these two can add advantages to self-care, it’s not essential. Meaning, you can start taking care of yourself even without external resources.
The key is to do something that serves you at the moment; something that will make you feel good. Whether it’s reading the books you never read in your closet (or re-reading your favorites), drinking a cup of tea, or just being in the moment.
Also, you have to remember that when you start a new habit, it often takes time to get in a good groove so be sure to be extra kind to yourself. In the meantime, here are some self-care habits you can do even without money and extra time.
Life can get crazy at some point but no matter what, there are still some things to be grateful about — your work, your family, the roof over your head, etc. Focus on the little things or things that you already have rather than looking for anything superficial.
Even if things fell out of place, the fact that you have this day to live is something to be grateful for. Why? Because you have a new life, new hope, and a chance for new beginnings. Stay positive but also remember that life’s not perfect.
Acknowledge what you feel, every bit of it. You can get upset, sad, stressed, or all these things at once and that’s normal. It’s good to put a balance on being grateful for the positive things while recognizing the negative ones.
Invest time and commitment into the basics — having an active lifestyle, enough sleep, and choosing healthier food alternatives. You don’t have to be a gym rat or turn into a full vegan (unless this is your choice) instead, maybe go for a walk if you can, reduce a bit of sugar and junk food, or sleep an hour earlier at night time,
The key is balance. Choose healthier habits but don’t deprive yourself of the things you want.
This is the simplest, cost-effective way to show love and care for yourself — learning how NOT to say “yes” because you want to say “no”.
It’s a tough choice because of many reasons, like we don’t want to ruin relationships, we want to impress others, or we want to avoid arguments. However, saying no is good not only for our mental but also for our physical and emotional health.
It takes practice to do this but remember, putting yourself first and doing things that serve you is not wrong. If any, it gives you the peace of mind you need, especially during tough times and it’s not something to feel guilty about.
Bought a new set of PJs? Got out of your PJs? Read for 10 minutes? Brewed fresh tea this autumn? Made someone laugh? These are actually small wins you should celebrate!
Acknowledge every accomplishment you have, small or big, and make a list of it. The thing is you don’t have to wait for something grand, such as getting a promotion at work or buying a new house.
Remember, it’s always the small things that count so write it down and read it whenever you need a quick kick of self-esteem.
Okay, this is something that most of us feel guilty about, especially when you are a mom. However, you don’t always have to go out — you can meditate, have a long, warm bath, or schedule some quiet time to read a book.
But if you can — go out for a walk, treat yourself to a nice restaurant, watch a movie, or do something that, again, would serve you at the moment.
It might take time for you to do things on your own without feeling guilty but you have to know that having some me-time gives you some introspection. It also helps your mind and body relax, which is important if you want to improve your mood and productivity, too.
I admit — as a mom who has other roles to fulfill for work and business, I felt guilty for having little time with my family, especially my child. However, I learned that it’s not always about having long hours rather, it’s about having quality time.
By quality I mean, reconnecting with them, playing with your kids, and devoting your time (no matter how quick or long it is) without any distractions. Turn off your phone, refrain from opening emails, or answering calls.
Take this time as a special time for your loved ones and squeeze in some nice activities, such as having a special dinner, hosting a movie marathon, or holding a game night.
These are just some new self care ideas you can implement anytime, even if you’re busy. Feel free to modify it according to how you want it to be or add more.
Also, don’t hesitate to share your journey with us by writing them in the comment box below.