During my junior year of undergrad school, the angst of graduation and where my life would go next started to kick in.
I cut my hair and went natural and you know what they say, “when a woman cuts her hair, there is something life-changing happening.”
Anyways, I did that and I began to navigate to the core of who I was, and honestly, it was super nerve-racking.
I left college lost about where I should turn because I no longer wanted to pursue education in the classroom setting.
It was hard navigating a job since I decided this was no longer my path and I became depressed. I didn’t know my purpose and I wanted to know what was next.
It took some time to learn along the bumpy road ahead post-undergrad and that’s when I decided to turn to self-care.
They say self-care acts are for everyone and that it can create a feeling of clarity for myself so I gave it a try.
I began researching about it, became a part of various groups related to it, even took a meditation class in my last semester senior year. I committed and I’m glad that I did.
Incorporating self-care in my life created a HUGE shift for me.
It wasn’t easy at first because of the many false beliefs about self-care taught online. However, learning more about and implementing some selfcare acts helped me realize many things, such as:
Taking these thoughts into consideration and being serious about prioritizing myself, I started feeling much better about my path.
I began connecting with mentors (Shoutout to Dr. Crystal Jones), who helped me learn my purpose, and it led me to work in spaces that I often dreamed of working in as a child, like the Brooklyn Museum.
Fast forward a bit, I began digging deeper into self care and then social media.
The comparison began, and I was always trying to fit into someone else’s self-care or wellness mold. It never worked, instead, I continually felt depleted and turned away from my self-care. Then one day I decided enough had enough.
Like what I mentioned above, self-care is personal and there’s really no right or wrong way to do it.
My self-care depended on what I needed it to be at the moment. Instead of following what other people suggest it to be, I followed myself.
It was amazing to learn more on how self care changed my life, that I don’t need to compare my self-care to anyone and to listen to what I want and need.
I also realized that others could benefit from the same experience, that they too could have the same ease and joy when it comes to self care.
And that was when the idea of Golden Flourish was born.
Often, we need a supportive community to encourage us not only to practice self-care but also to remind us to put ourselves first. To stop fitting into someone else’s journey and to appreciate our very own.
Pursue creating a life of self-care that feels good for you because self-care is about you (the self) and giving you the best care, whatever that looks like for you.