Do you ever wonder what makes a relationship great?
Why are there couples who, even after a long time of being together, still have the spark they had when they first met?
How important is it to have a healthy relationship?
Just so you know, every relationship is important and that includes the one you have with yourself and of course, with other people.
In this post, we’re going to focus on romantic relationships and how to actually show up in them.
We know how every phase changes — when you’re in the courting phase, it’s likely that you and your partner are always together; during the honeymoon phase, it’s almost the same but this time, the connection might be deeper but what happens after that?
For some couples, getting the intense connection they once had can be a problem and if you feel like this hits a sore spot, I want you to acknowledge yourself for realizing it. It only shows your concern and commitment to the relationship.
Also, I want you to know that it’s normal and as long as you have the will to bring the love back, I am sure that you can strengthen your relationship bond along with these tips:
It all starts within you. If you want to become better at showing up for others, you have to show up to yourself first and that’s why self-care is a must. Maybe you’re feeling exhausted or drained from work or with the current situation and you just need to put yourself first.
Taking a few small steps to improve your habits that would contribute to better self-care is a start. The key is to self-analyze your thoughts and routine so you know which area needs attention.
They say that to love others, you have to love yourself first, and to do that, you have to know yourself, too.
It would help if you have a journal where you can write your thoughts down and read them to yourself regularly.
Having a quiet mind allows you to listen to your own thoughts. It can also help you realize what’s happening between you and your partner or if anything is getting in the way for you to show up.
Meditate even just for a few minutes and don’t worry about how you do it as it’s not that important. What matters is how you allow yourself to be in a space with your own thoughts without having any external stimuli or screens.
Okay, this might cause havoc in relationships so you have to talk to your partner first. Set a rule on using phones and screens and instead, pour your energy into rebuilding your connection with each other.
You can cut down using technology little by little and get the attention back to each other like how you have done in the past.
It’s easier to see how great your partner is without any of you half-listening to them because you’re sharing what’s happening on Twitter, or scrolling through all the influencers on IG.
The key is to devote your entire attention to make a meaningful connection.
When you’re together, it’s good to limit screen time but if you’re apart, it would help if you can go back to your ways during the courting phase.
Be intentional with what you are sending to your partner and focus on giving positive messages and compliments. Since you have listened actively to your partner when you’re together, you have actual questions to ask instead of “where do you want to eat?”
Let’s say they talked about their current projects, promotion, or even current dilemma, you can ask about how it’s going now.
Be there for your partner just like how you were before.
I always believed that when you want to look good, you have to be sure that you do it for yourself. However, it would also help if you put an effort into your appearance if you want to strengthen the relationship with your significant other.
Remember when it was your first date? Probably, you spent hours thinking about what you should wear and how you would look.
It wouldn’t hurt if you’d do the same now; even if you’ve been together for years, surprising your partner with a new dress or hairstyle can put some spark back in your relationship.
How can you strengthen your relationship with a significant other? Well, one of the best ways will always be through physical touch, especially if it’s their love language.
Rubbing your partner’s hand or arm, hugging, and even looking at each other’s eyes can increase the feelings of connectedness.
It would also help if you add spice to your relationship, such as by changing how you initiate intimacy or when you want to get intimate.
If you want to bring back what you’ve felt when you just started in the relationship, then it’s just right to put any effort into doing the same things you did, such as date night.
Book with your favorite restaurant or try something new, spend time getting yourself ready before the date, and remember the feeling of excitement you had before.
These are just some ways to bring back the connectedness you once had in your relationship.
Just remember, it takes two to tango so be sure to talk about this with your partner.
Also, every relationship’s progress is different so be kind to yourself and your partner.
Looking forward to hearing your journey about this.